By: Cocofro212

Cocofro212 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 04:09:47 +0000

love this blog.
I adore Hill Harper I really really REALLY do, but, it is a lil uneasy taking advice from a single guy.
Essence tends to have essays that I don’t agree to as far as relationships. Since the rise of all these help books and articles, the amount of ppl being married or staying married has not risen. So why not go back to a time when we didn’t have all this “help”
I don’t want to blame men period, but I’m tired of hearing them complain “expectations are too high” so I should lower my standards so you can appeal to me? No. Not going to happen. How do you know what my standards and expectations are? I would come off a lil desperate expressing to you on the first meeting when I want to be married, how many kids I want, and so forth. The issue is ppl want instant gratification, and relationships don’t work like that. Maybe we should start taking the time to get to know each other first and being open to each other, not feeding in to what this sex crazed pop media wants us to think is good for us. Notice its tearing us apart from each other and not closer to each other…
PeAce Love Soul

By: singleblkmale

singleblkmale — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:25:26 +0000

As a single guy, I feel that expectations are too high on both sides. I’m a decent looking, late twenties man, making a decent amount of money and I’m very fit. However, I find it almost impossible to talk to women because I feel like their expectations are too high. Here’s what I mean by that: I have what I think is a normal amount of confidence, but ,as I heard a comedian say before, if I find my confidence lingering around average levels, I like to go to the club just to pull it down a few thousand notches. While that was meant to be a joke, there is a lot of truth to it. Women (yes I’m generalizing) want a guy to be “swagtastic”, “swagger like us”, “big ego”, “swag surfing”, etc. Women want a guy to float across the room like it’s a freakin Spike Lee joint, have the smoothest intro, make em laugh, while at the same time having engaging conversation, never stuttering or allowing uncomfortable silence – all while not appearing to be running game. The same can be said for guys. We make a B line straight towards the sexiest model looking chick in the room instead of trying to talk to the more average looking woman who may be more open to less than perfect guys. I think both sides need to stop shooting for people out of our leagues. But it’s so hard to give up on the dream of mackin a model chick back to the crib. Sacrifices lol

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